As International Men’s Day rolls around every year, we hear the earnest and all too familiar warnings about how suicide is the single biggest killer of men under 50, and how, if we just learn to accept vulnerability in men, to champion the ability to show emotion and talk about how we feel, we might … Continue reading International Men’s Day: How femininity made me a ‘real man’
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The news that women have finally achieved true equality could hardly be more welcome. Who could fail to be uplifted by the realisation that fifty percent of the world’s population are now, without exception, paid what they are worth, able to express ideas without being shouted down by the other fifty percent, and free to … Continue reading In defence of the true victims of Me Too: I will not desert you
Privilege is a weird thing. Most of us have a certain level of privilege, and some of us even recognise it and try to use it to effect change. Some of us deny it exists at all, labouring under the self-imposed misapprehension that everything we’ve achieved has occurred as a direct result of our own … Continue reading Privilege, self-satisfaction and the befriending of bastards
Imagine wanting something so badly that you’ll do anything to get it. Dishonesty, disloyalty, racism, homophobia, the steadfast promise to deliver something you know in your heart is intrinsically repugnant: nothing is off the table in your quest to lay your hands on that which is rightfully yours. Imagine then, that you finally achieve your … Continue reading Puppies, poultry and self-immolation: an object lesson in being careful what you wish for
Pride Month has drawn to a close. Corporations prepare to take down their rainbow flags, secretly pleased that they can stop pretending to give a shit about the queers for another year. The Home Office looks forward to removing any trace of inclusivity from its Twitter profile, relieved to be able to return to telling … Continue reading When Pride Month Is Over: How To Be An Effective Ally
To those who aren’t hateful fucking trash, queer folk are just normal people. We go to work, we pay bills, we watch TV, we go for walks, we enjoy opera or sports or books. We have friendships, relationships, families. We fall in love and we break up and we’re flawed and messy and fragile and damaged and…human.
I speak to Harriet Minter and Emma Sexton on Talk Radio's Badass Women's Hour about my most recent article, homophobia and the situation in Birmingham.
I feel angry. Angry that we’re having to refight battles we’ve already fought, and which belong firmly in the past; angry that narrow-minded people seek to use the protective veil of religious belief to excuse their hateful bigotry and intolerance; and utterly fucking enraged that another generation of children might have to endure what I and so many others like me had to endure some thirty years ago.
I wrote this piece for my son about a year ago when I was coming to terms with some stuff, and I think it feels right to share it today in the hope that it will matter to someone else. "Daniel, I’ve been thinking for a few weeks about writing something just for you, and … Continue reading International Mens Day 2018: A (now open) letter to Daniel